Say it with flowers

A criticism often levelled at those of us who blog about our experiences with home education is that we only ever portray the positives – it’s a shiny, happy version of the reality of home education. I think I may be guilty of that. Home education is still relatively rare in the UK, and many people don’t understand why we would make that choice for our children. Reactions can vary from puzzlement to downright hostility. So we may feel a pressure to emphasise the positives and downplay the negatives. Usually when I write about our home educating experiences, it is the good things – the moments of creativity, clarity, wonder. The happiness we share together as a family. But in the interests of balance, I should say that some days can be boring, frustrating, demoralising. Some days I think “AAAAAAAARRRGHHHHH! Why on earth am I doing this?!?!” I think it would be fair to say that Wednesday of this week was one such day. I took the boys to an art exhibition, thinking they would be inspired but they shuffled their feet and looked bored. I thought we would spend some relaxing time in the garden, watching birds or sketching flowers, but the boys preferred to fight with sticks and scream at the top their lungs. It was just “one of those days”, and I was glad to be off on a rare evening out with girlfriends. So I was especially humbled and touched to come home and find these pictures from the boys waiting for me:

Welcome Back Mum (Rafe)Welcome Back Mum (George)

Aren’t they lovely? And it helped me to remember that, even on the bad days, I am blessed and grateful to have two such wonderful, creative and thoughtful sons, and I am very lucky and honoured to be able to spend time with them, helping them to learn and grow. It’s not an easy ride, but it is definitely worthwhile for moments like this.

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8 thoughts on “Say it with flowers

  1. It’s like the Good the Bad and the Ugly days but inbetween we get the Fabulous the Funny and the Blooming Brillliant days which make it worthwhile 🙂

  2. Allie says:

    Fortunately, the bad days are rare, there’s always a solution to those frantic outbursts of energy, lol….things didn’t always work out the way I’d planned, but I learned to let it go and look for something new. I think my boys taught me as much as I taught them! What a wonderful way to be welcomed home, Viv, your boys are awesome and YOU, my dear, are doing a fabulous job of being a wonderful mum!

  3. Everyone has bad days, no matter the situation or experience. Love the artwork that your boys created for you. xoxo

  4. Andria says:

    I understand what you are saying about emphasizing the good days over the bad. Maybe it’s also because it’s so much more fun to reflect on and share the good times and the successes! Your boys probably caught the vibe of the day, too; hence, their lovely notes for you upon your return. Very sweet!

    • vivjm says:

      Oh yes, I’m sure they too felt it had been “one of those days” – they are sensitive boys, though you couldn’t always tell!!

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